The Simple 2/2/2 Rule for a Happy Relationship
Being that I am organized (professional organizer is my title after all!) and routine driven at heart, it only makes sense for me to have implemented a routine into my relationship!
I remember last summer when the world and opportunity outside of our home began to open up a bit here in Rochester NY, I suggested the “2/2/2 Rule” to Jordan to get OUT of our usual routine at home when it came to spending time together.
Really, Jordan and I spend a lot of time together as a couple. Especially now that we are home a lot. We have always really enjoyed each other’s company and have similar interests so it’s been easy to not have to “find time” for each other. Plus, we are lucky and our daily schedules and commitments allow for it. Don’t get me wrong, we love having our own things and time apart too! It is healthy for any relationship.
Our issue post-quarantine was that we had really begun to get in the habit of hanging it home a little too much. I would consider us introverted and extroverted - we love our down time at home but we also love connecting with others we love and experiencing new things outside the home too.
Jordan and I on a day trip in my favorite place, Skaneateles!
This prompted my suggestion to Jordan of following the 2/2/2 Rule. This rule is:
Every two weeks, we go out for a few hours (during this COVID-season, just devote a few special hours at home doing something out of the ordinary - cook or bake together, play games, etc.)
Every two months, we go away for the night or the weekend.
Every two months, we go away for a week.
*Disclaimer - COVID restrictions only allow for so much at the time, but we have plans!
This rule, more like a routine, gives you a basis for getting scheduled time together outside the home. It gives you something to slowly and intentionally plan and look forward to. This isn’t to say you can’t break this routine, but really it is a good foundation for spending some time outside the home, alone together. Twice a month, every eight-ish weeks, and every two years.
The idea here is that now you won’t be constantly longing for a night out together (I so dislike the term date-night, it seems so silly to say out loud lol!) or a “break” in your usual routine for a night or week away (we will do this eventually - travels restrictions and our savings budget over the last few years didn’t allow for this).
The thing is, these outings don’t need to be lofty or expensive. But it will be motivation to save a little when you look forward to each outing. Do what suits you!
Jordan and I on another day trip to Buffalo!
I suggest marking on your calendar accordingly to plan these outings. That way you won’t forget it is a priority, just like other items on your calendar.
I have a note saved in my phone for ideas concerning each of the “2’s” too! Add things as you see others enjoying a new restaurant, hotel, location. It is a sure way to keep the fun and experiences coming as a couple!